International Men’s Day, celebrated each year on 19 November, offers a gentle pause in the calendar, inviting us to look with honesty, compassion, and gratitude at the diverse experiences of men and boys. It isn’t about elevating men above anyone else, nor is it a counterpoint to the vital work of International Women’s Day; instead, it’s a moment to acknowledge the responsibilities, pressures, joys, and vulnerabilities that shape men’s lives, and to encourage healthier, kinder ways of being in the world.

Too often, men are expected to be unshakeable: strong without faltering, providers without rest, problem-solvers who mustn’t admit fear, sadness, or loneliness. These expectations may look admirable on the surface, but they quietly restrict the full range of human expression. International Men’s Day encourages men to speak with honesty, to seek help when they need it, and to recognise that strength and tenderness aren’t opposites, but threads woven together into a fuller, freer life.

The day also calls attention to the relationships that help men flourish: friendships that allow vulnerability, families shaped by love rather than duty, workplaces where asking for support isn’t seen as weakness, and communities where men help to lift others up. It celebrates positive role models, those who show that empathy, fairness, and courage can coexist; those who challenge harmful stereotypes; those who raise boys with gentleness and integrity.

At its heart, International Men’s Day is an invitation towards wholeness. It’s a reminder that every man, whatever his story, is at his best when he’s allowed to be fully human: strong and soft, steady and questioning, responsible and deeply loved.