The algorithms of social media often ensure that we live within an echo chamber of friends who share our outlook on life. Yet not everyone agrees with us, nor do we always agree with others. The adage of ‘agreeing to disagree agreeably’ sometimes goes out of the window when passions run high, and social media can act as a catalyst to entrench our opinions and polarise debate.

In an increasingly divisive society, we may need to relearn the simple art of being kind, affirming one another and appreciating diversity. When I post something on Facebook, I expect disagreement, but I don’t expect rudeness. People can become so angry that others hold a different, well-considered opinion, one that may be part of their very identity.

Often on social media there’s no real engagement with the issue at hand, just a loud alternative opinion shouted into the void, with little sense of nuance or listening. We aren’t heard by shouting. There must be respect, both for ourselves and for others. It’s also perfectly acceptable to acknowledge the merits of someone else’s position, even if we don’t share it.

Please don’t think I’m claiming to be perfect in this regard, I’m not. But I do believe we all need to take a careful, humble look at how we respond to what’s posted on Facebook and social media in general.

Personally, I approach this as a person of faith. Many of my attitudes, thoughts, and actions flow from that and shape who I am. Paul, writing to the Philippians, said: Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others.

Here lies the heart of the matter, Paul’s call to have the same mindset as Christ Jesus. Be kind to each other.

Note: Originally published in 2020.